Dear Dad: Happy Mother’s Day

Twenty-eight years ago, on Sunday, May 13th, 1984 my father died of a sudden heart attack. It happened in front of his family. It was at his son’s college graduation. It was on Mother’s Day. He was 59.

From that day forward, every Mother’s Day has been an honoring of both my mom and dad.

This year, 2012, Mother’s Day happens to fall on the 13th, and a Sunday.

Dad was a man who encouraged, guided, and dreamed. He prepared his five children in a loving, consistent way. His hard work provides for mom to this day. Even today, it is very easy to tap into his wisdom and guidance.

Dad used to say, “Whatever career you choose, be the best at it.”

Dad used to say, “Keep your mind on school, not girls.”

Dad used to say, “Learn, and then teach me.”

The drawing below shows how I managed the sudden loss. Take a few moments to look, and read the essay that appears on the art page for The Wheels of Time Grind Slowly But Fine. You can also click on the art page’s image to make it larger.

The Wheels of Time Grind Slowly But Fine tells the story of how a life tragedy can be managed over the long term.

The Wheels of Time Grind Slowly But Fine tells the story of how a life tragedy can be managed over the long term.

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About Ara Hagopian's The LITERATE Show

For over thirty years, I have enjoyed drawing beautiful shapes and writing complementary stories. The imagery tends to focus on our place in the world—whomever or whatever we may be. I am influenced by Twentieth Century history—I read vintage magazines, books and letters. Inspiration comes from visualizing human achievement and personal interaction—derived from people, places and things which may be obscure, but never insignificant. My pen-and-ink THE MAGNIFICENT RECOVERY was selected by the Museum of Fine Arts, Boston for their 2008 summer art auction.
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10 Responses to Dear Dad: Happy Mother’s Day

  1. Martha says:

    Thanks for sharing your story, Ara. You’ve always been so open in your art and essays. I appreciate the personal depth of both.

    • Thank you Martha.That openness you speak of comes from being comfortable even when talking about uncomfortable things. Because translating experiences is part of the writer’s process. It helps us reach more people but it’s good for our health, too.

  2. Jack D says:

    Sounds eerily familiar, Ara.

    My father passed away on Fathers Day 1988, of a massive heart attack at only 50. So, an ironic anniversary every year.

    Good to hear you are getting hits from various countries, and wishing you success. 🙂

  3. Greg says:

    A very touching story Ara,,,and one of great hope.

  4. Phyllis (Kline) Saia says:

    Such a beautiful remberance of your father..you are a tribute to your family. Thank you for including me to share this beautiful story, and I do remember it well.

  5. Jen says:

    Such a beautiful tribute Ara. I’m sure your Dad would be very proud of all that you’ve accomplished and to see what a devoted son you are to your Mom. Hope the weekend is ok- all things considered… Jen

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